Ringing In Right Ear Means
Every day of my life I am plagued by the noises in my head. Not one day goes by without it. I hate it. I used to be perfectly healthy, not a thing wrong with me. When my tinnitus is really bad I just feel sick. Life used to be great, but the constant noise has ruined it for me. Nothing will ever be the same. I just get so angry and frustrated. Even on a good day, I don 't enjoy things like l used to. I keep asking why this had to happen? Why me? What did I do to deserve this ? Anything would be better than having to put up with this noise! There is nothing, nothing, that could possibly be this bad. I might have had a few problems in the past, but this has got to be the worst thing that I have ever had to endure!
We looked at how the thoughts, beliefs, and expectations that a person holds in response to their tinnitus may have a powerful influence on their emotions, feelings, and behavior. Automatic thoughts may essentially be classified as positive, negative, or neutral. Positive thoughts tend to have the effect of making a person feel good and optimistic. Neutral thoughts usually have no significant effect on a person's feelings or emotions.
Negative thoughts, of course, generally have some detrimental effect on a person's feelings, mood, and emotions. It is not uncommon for people to tend to engage in particular patterns or styles of thinking. We will describe 12 common styles of negative thinking. We will then describe thought-stopping and distraction techniques that can be used to control negative automatic thoughts. After that, we will introduce you to an approach called cognitive restructuring.
The 12 Common Styles of Negative Thinking
You come to a general conclusion on the basis of a single piece of evidence. If something bad happened once, you expect it to happen over and over again.
General Example – I failed to score a goal in the game. I never will.
Tinnitus Example – Because of my tinnitus I was awake all night. Every night will be the same.
2. All-or-None Thinking
You see things in distinct categories – black or white. Things are good or bad, perfect or a failure. There are no shades of grey.
General Example – I've lost my job–now everything is a disaster.
Tinnitus Example - Before I had tinnitus my life was perfect. Now, my life is ruined.
You tend to select a single negative event, filter out all positive features, and dwell on the negative exclusively.
General Example – No one finished the dessert – the rest of the food seemed popular, but the dessert ruined the whole evening.
Tinnitus Example - My tinnitus is much worse after the party – I enjoyed the company but my tinnitus spoiled everything.
4. Mind Reading or Jumping to Conclusions
You know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do, even without them saying so or without asking them.
General example - I know that my friends all hate me because I forgot to book the table at the restaurant.
Tinnitus Example – When I have to ask people to repeat things because I don't hear well, I know they think I'm an idiot.
5. Magnification or Catastrophizing
You expect the worst and make mountains out of molehills.
General Example – I'll make a fool of myself and then I'll never be able to show my face in public.
Tinnitus Example – My tinnitus is louder – I know I'll become deaf.
You tend to belittle the importance of the significance of an event, or even your own strengths or assets.
General Example – So what if I'm a good cook? That doesn't mean anything.
Tinnitus Example - So what if I managed my tinnitus today? That was a fluke.
You tend to blame yourself inappropriately as the cause of a negative event.
General Example – That disagreement was all my fault.
Tinnitus Example – I was so annoyed by my tinnitus that I ruined the night for everyone.
8. Jumping to Conclusions
You tend to draw a conclusion despite the fact that the evidence is lacking or actually supports the contrary conclusion.
General Example – The boss might say I've done a good job and the figures show it, but I know I haven't.
Tinnitus Example - The tests say that my hearing is O.K., but I know I'm going deaf.
9. Emotional Reasoning
You believe that whatever you feel must be true – automatically. You assume that if you feel negative, then this feeling is an accurate reflection of the way things really are.
General Example – I feel stupid – I am stupid.
Tinnitus Example - My tinnitus makes me feel so hopeless. There is no hope.
10. "Should" Statements
You have an ironclad list of rules about how you and others "should" behave. If others break these rules, you feel angry; if you break them, you experience guilt.
General Example – I should always be happy.
Tinnitus Example – Having tinnitus should never upset me.
You tend to generalize one or two qualities into a negative global judgment. (This is an extreme form of overgeneralization.)
General Example – I made a mistake. I'm a total loser, a hopeless case.
Tinnitus Example – Having tinnitus and hearing loss means that I'm totally disabled.
You hold other people responsible for all of your troubles, or, alternatively, you blame yourself for everyone else's troubles.
General Example – If it hadn't been for my partner hassling me, I would have done O.K. Tinnitus Example – I wouldn't be so annoyed with my tinnitus if my family understood!
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